I'm raising my kids in a town with fewer than 1,500 people. Cost of living is cheap, but we need to drive to find diversity.
19.07.2024 - 15:15
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Last winter my daughter became interested in gymnastics . She watched tutorials on YouTube and practiced moves herself while I hoped her interest might wane. Instead, it intensified, and all she wanted for her sixth birthday was gymnastics lessons. The only problem was that the nearest gymnastics studio was 43 minutes from our house.
When I first had kids a decade ago, I was living in a Boston suburb , the type of place where you could probably find a gymnastics studio within biking distance of home. But before my second was born, my family moved to rural New Hampshire for my husband's job. We landed in a city of about 60,000 people, and a few years later we went more remote, landing in our town of 1,500.
The town we live in doesn't even have one stoplight. Before we moved here, I used to drive through and say, "It's just so beautiful, but who could live way out here?"
The kids' school (a town over) is 20 minutes from home, while the grocery store is 25. When the kids inevitably break a bone during their adventures, we need to drive 45 minutes to the hospital. This week, I'm spending 90 minutes in the car each day so that my daughter can go to gymnastics camp .
I was apprehensive about moving rural when we first made the transition. I wondered about access to kids' activities and communities for me. If I was making a pros and cons list, I'm not sure I would have taken the plunge, but my husband's new job was a thumb on the scale, so we decided to give it a try.
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The midsize town of 60,000 felt like a strange middle ground. There were grocery stores, a Walmart, and the smallest T.J. Maxx I'd ever seen, but there were few restaurants and fewer community events like live music, writing groups, or even playgroups. I had small-town challenges without small-town charm.
Yet I absolutely adored the access to nature . There were hiking trails everywhere along mountain streams. I spent summer days canoeing the river that divides New Hampshire and Vermont, then running the trails at a local mountain, and winter days cross-country skiing and sledding.
After three years of living in that town, going even more rural felt like an easy choice. Our house is now a five-minute walk from a 75-mile trail loop over four of New Hampshire's peaks. We can swim or kayak at four different lakes that are within a 10-minute drive, and we have two ski mountains close by.
Being immersed in nature is by far my favorite part of living rurally. We see moose on our road at least once a year, and my whole family loves watching the seasonal changes on the bog in our backyard.
But there are other perks, too. Our small town has a very close community made up equally of people who grew up here and