A Gen Z influencer taught me how to take better photos while traveling solo. Her 3 tips transformed the way I take pictures of myself.
12.08.2023 - 13:45
/ insider.com
To her more than one million TikTok followers, digital creator MJ Hedderman is known as "the Instagram girlfriend." It's a moniker she said she fell into in 2020 after realizing she didn't need a partner to take photos of her — she could learn to take them herself instead.
Since then, Hedderman, 25, has been regularly posting tutorials on how to take expert-level photos of yourself when no one else is around. She's taught her followers how to work their angles, dream up creative poses, and, most importantly, build the confidence to do both in the real world. She's taught them to become their own Instagram girlfriend.
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"It's kind of blossomed into this meaning of independence and doing things for yourself, without needing the help of anybody else," Hedderman told Insider. "I think that's what it taught me — to really just not care about what anyone thinks. Be your own Instagram girlfriend."
While on a recent trip to Paris, I decided to become my own Instagram girlfriend. I turned to Hedderman for advice on how to get photos that aren't selfies while traveling solo, and she left me with three tips for capturing the perfect snapshots.
She suggested ignoring what other people think, posing with "props," and taking videos instead of photos, then screenshotting the best frames — and her advice made me feel so much more confident while taking photos.
This simple tip answers what always felt like my biggest question while taking photos: What do I do with my hands?!
"If I feel uncomfortable, I'll get a coffee," Hedderman said. "I could imagine myself putting my hair up. Typically what I tell people to do is find movement within your body. Don't just stand there and think of a pose."
For years, my go-to pose was standing with a hand on my hip or with my arms outstretched — neither of which are inherently wrong but tend to feel forced. Holding something, like my sunglasses in the photo above, helped make me feel more natural in front of the camera.
Instead of setting a timer and taking a series of photos, only to find out that none of them turned out well, Hedderman suggested taking a video. Then, once you're done, you can screenshot the frame you like the best.
Using this tip and her suggestion to use a prop felt like a natural way to get halfway-decent photos of myself. I'd walk in front of my camera, smile, then walk back, and most times, I'd have a frame that I liked.
I tried this suggestion at the Panthéon in Paris. Even though the above photo isn't "perfect," so to speak, I still think it's fun and creative, and I was excited to see the video tip worked.
For me, this was Hedderman's most impactful piece of advice.
"Anything that you start,