Group Travel Etiquette: How to Split the Bill at a Restaurant
13.09.2023 - 21:09
/ cntraveler.com
You’re out to dinner with a group of friends and the night’s winding down. The banter is electric, the drinks are flowing, and the vibes are downright jovial. Then the check comes—and so commences the perennially sticky song and dance of splitting the bill. One person tepidly reminds the group that they weren’t drinking. Another taps the mic to emphasize that they only ordered the Caesar salad while their neighbor to the right opted for the filet mignon. Every possible solution leaves at least one person feeling scorned (and overcharged). It doesn’t help that dining out is pricier than pretty much ever right now—and let’s be real, nobody wants to pay more than they owe.
A recent TikTok chronicling a full-on verbal brawl over a group’s $4,600 dinner check renewed debates surrounding the right way to split the bill—that is, if there is a right way at all. That particular video may or may not have been staged (it was probably staged), but it raised an all-too-common conundrum: awkwardly nickel-and-diming the check at the end of the night.
Apps like Splitwise and Venmo—and, more recently, QR code ordering that allows each diner to pay for only what they got—have significantly streamlined the process of splitting the bill. But doing the math is only one element of the equation; the harder part is often figuring out who owes what in a variety of head-scratchy scenarios.
The truth is, speaking up to request a separate check or asking to pay less can feel awkward. But with some etiquette ground rules, dinner table brawls (and most excessive spending) are avoidable. In any scenario, be courteous to your waiter, who probably doesn’t want to juggle six credit cards and three separate checks, by gauging their preference on how to split a bill before you order.
So, here’s how to split the bill when…
If only one person at your table is drinking, they should offer to cover the cost of their drinks—either by requesting a separate check at the start of the meal or, if one diner in the group is putting their card down, by offering to pay more to cover their share.
“Often, alcoholic beverages are more costly than the food,” says Myka Meier, founder of Beaumont Etiquette, which offers courses on dining protocol and other social etiquette. “So if only one person is drinking, it would be kind for that person to offer to pay more.” Sean Jung, assistant professor at Boston University School of Hospitality, also suggests that the one person who’s drinking could open a separate tab at the bar, if it’s that kind of place. In any case, “it would be a common courtesy for the person who is buying drinks to say that they will be paying on a separate check,” he says.
Whether by opening a separate tab or just covering the tip at