My friends bailed on my birthday trip to Paris a few years ago. Now, I go on a solo trip every year to celebrate getting older.
31.07.2023 - 20:47
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Years ago, as my 26th birthday approached, I decided to take myself to Paris. Although I'd initially invited friends, circumstances changed, and I embraced the idea of going solo.
It turned out to be the best decision ever.
Uninhibited by others' budgets or plans, I completely indulged during my birthday celebration abroad — waking up whenever I pleased, exploring different places, finding free activities to enjoy, and trying out diverse restaurants.
Initially, I was concerned about feeling self-conscious while being alone on a trip, but I quickly realized people are generally preoccupied with their own lives and not concerned about others' vacations. And I noticed how many others were traveling solo, too, whether for adventure or business.
I've since fully embraced the idea of a solo birthday celebration. It's freeing and empowering to mark the occasion on my own terms without relying on anyone else.
After my unforgettable trip to Paris, I continued my solo adventures, exploring Lisbon, Zimbabwe (where I combined solo and family time), and my favorite so far — the Maldives.
Initially, I had pictured traveling to the Maldives with my future spouse for a honeymoon. But I realized I didn't need to wait for a partner to experience such a dream destination. Instead, I chose to embrace the beauty of the moment and celebrate with myself, for myself.
Traveling solo for a birthday comes with perks, too. I make it known ahead of time to staff at restaurants and hotels that it's my birthday and I've gotten to enjoy many free desserts with sparklers — a small but delightful treat.
Solo travel has helped me feel invincible and capable of anything. These trips are also a special way for me to express self-love while celebrating getting another year older. After all, the relationship I have with myself is the most important one.
I encourage others to embark on their solo-travel journeys — and, if it seems overwhelming, start small by going to the movies or a local restaurant by yourself. Build up to a longer solo trip, whether it's a weekend nearby or an international holiday.
For my next birthday, I have my sights set on exploring Africa's rich cultures on my own.